Saturday, May 17, 2008
Monday, May 5, 2008
WTF is all the nice guy?
As I were listening to the song Marc Anthony - You Sang to Me (One of my all time favorite songs), it reminds me of something. I have been thinking and feels like sharing a story with you guys by an anonymous source.
"Thinking back really hard, most of you girls might remember vaguely that there was once a guy who always seemed eager to spend his time with you, went shopping with you, visit you no matter how far you are, accompany you when you are lonely and ignore or completely canceled out all his further activity just to sit there for hours, listen to all your problems.
At the same time, you probably treat that guy as a joke and laughed him off with your friends about how "sticky" he is, how he was like a little dog which follows you all around and doing things just to get a bit of your attention. All of his action probably would make your friends started to tease that a boy like that could be crazy over you. He, a little too short, almost gone bald, not that slim, quite poor, or did not possess a great fashion sense, or basically none of the things that your dream tall, handsome, fit, rich, stylish prince charming which can easily pull you off your feet and further induce you to denied having any romantic feelings for him.
Eventually, the one who really cares about you drifted away, as your relationship with your other boyfriend got more serious. As more time passed, and the other boyfriend eventually starting to cheat on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that can sustain.
So, now, you're single again, and after trying out your luck in some social places such as pubs, discos, and bars for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, assholes, and scums, you wonder, "What happened to all the nice guys?"
Well, you did it once again.
You ignored the nice guy that appear right in front of you and used him for your own emotional intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof, not significant boyfriend more than the guy which was there all the while in front of you but you does not seem to see him. As time pass, eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life.
He probably came to realize, nowadays, women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or amuse you with jokes and humors; or buy you a gift that you mentioned; or listen when you're upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, learned how not to be himself and generally acted like more of an asshole than he ever wanted to be.
Luckily I am not like this and I am still a nice guy.
So, if you're looking for a nice guy, here's what you should really do:
1.) Build a time machine.
2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ass.
3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab a hold of it.
So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've fcuked yourself over. You're getting older, after all. It's time to excise the bullshit and deal with reality. You didn't want a nice guy then, and he certainly doesn't fcuking want you, now."
- d a r t h i k e a -
"Thinking back really hard, most of you girls might remember vaguely that there was once a guy who always seemed eager to spend his time with you, went shopping with you, visit you no matter how far you are, accompany you when you are lonely and ignore or completely canceled out all his further activity just to sit there for hours, listen to all your problems.
At the same time, you probably treat that guy as a joke and laughed him off with your friends about how "sticky" he is, how he was like a little dog which follows you all around and doing things just to get a bit of your attention. All of his action probably would make your friends started to tease that a boy like that could be crazy over you. He, a little too short, almost gone bald, not that slim, quite poor, or did not possess a great fashion sense, or basically none of the things that your dream tall, handsome, fit, rich, stylish prince charming which can easily pull you off your feet and further induce you to denied having any romantic feelings for him.
Eventually, the one who really cares about you drifted away, as your relationship with your other boyfriend got more serious. As more time passed, and the other boyfriend eventually starting to cheat on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that can sustain.
So, now, you're single again, and after trying out your luck in some social places such as pubs, discos, and bars for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, assholes, and scums, you wonder, "What happened to all the nice guys?"
Well, you did it once again.
You ignored the nice guy that appear right in front of you and used him for your own emotional intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof, not significant boyfriend more than the guy which was there all the while in front of you but you does not seem to see him. As time pass, eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life.
He probably came to realize, nowadays, women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or amuse you with jokes and humors; or buy you a gift that you mentioned; or listen when you're upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, learned how not to be himself and generally acted like more of an asshole than he ever wanted to be.
Luckily I am not like this and I am still a nice guy.
So, if you're looking for a nice guy, here's what you should really do:
1.) Build a time machine.
2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ass.
3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab a hold of it.
So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've fcuked yourself over. You're getting older, after all. It's time to excise the bullshit and deal with reality. You didn't want a nice guy then, and he certainly doesn't fcuking want you, now."
- d a r t h i k e a -
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